AG… I’d wait and pass him another note.
That way, you don’t have to see his immediate reaction; nor do others around you at the time (no embarrassment).  Leave him your number, and if he’s reallytruly madly and passionately “into you” he’ll call… never give up hope.  This way you can keep the excitement alive and not be hurt (win-win?). If it took him a YEAR to find you (hmmm) it may take him another year to get through his own fears and call you.  I kinda forget if you said what was in your original note said.  No worries.  The fact he said he was “looking for you” and “wondered” about you are definitely something… next time he’s in, why not keep your head down and pretend you didn’t see him… I know, it’s a head game and I hate them too, but isn’t that part of the chase… wonder what Evan is thinking about all this now - lol
I’m soooo excited for you girl… you can’t imagine… can’t wait for your next update or more ... ifyou have any more questions, fire away, I’m always crushed, but always here for YOU.

Well, Well, I am in the grips of a relentless crush!! 

I have admired this older man in my office building for at least five or six years.  I didn’t see a wedding ring, so assumed he was dating around.  After chatting in the elevator for some time, I finally looked him up (risky, I know)and mustered the courage to send him an e-mail.  He responded positively and asked me out to lunch.  I didn’t think of it as a date because I approached him first.
Well, I see him a day before our lunch “date” and lo and behold I see alittle gold band on his left finger. I was devastated, but kept my cool.  We went to lunch anyway and he told me he had just gotten married the month before. That “date” was four months ago and needless to say I’m still disappointed and well, heartbroken.
Never had a crush like this and I’m no spring chicken.  Don’t know what to do…

I’m in my twenties and have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for over 5 years now. The thing is… I have an overwhelming crush on a girl I see on nearly a daily basis. I’m obsessed with her. She’s on my mind every single day. I find myself thinking about her even when I’m with my girlfriend and I feel guilty about it. I get nervous when I see her, like a little kid talking to a girl for the first time. I even find myself keeping an eye out for her in hopes of crossing paths with her. I’ve never felt like this about anyone. All of this, and… I don’t even know her name. It’s royally messed up and I have absolutely no control over it.

It is a strong, passionate longing for a partnership with a person that has something you don’t have and could never possess.

I think a lot of what you see in the other person is actually repressed characteristics of yourself and you are seeking them out to have a safe place to manifest those character traits.

But yes - agree with everything else. It is a wonderful life affirming process!

I have a crush on a co-worker and I don’t know why. I’ve been inspired to write again which is good, but at the same time it’s really weird. I’ve gone through a range of emotions from pure la la land (he speaks and time stops) to repulsion when he gets close. I’m married and so is he. He is very flirtatious, and I am very outgoing but when he comes by I don’t want to see him.
I’ve had dreams about him and for some stupid reason I feel compelled to tell him so many personal things. HELP! I want to tell my husband, but my friends say NO!
It’s getting better, but feels like an obsession. I know he feels the same way too. Any suggestions….

So, I’ve had this crush on this kid, for 6 months now. WE used to talk A LOT and be friends and hug and stuff.  One of my mean friends told him that I liked him.  He doesnt believe her, but ever since she told him we haven’t talked which has been for about 5 months without speaking. I’m too embarrassed evn to say hi. I heard he likes me. But he doesn’t say hi to me either. When i pass him in the hallways he stares at me, but doesn’t say anything. I want to say Hi but I’m too embarrassed. I think if I say hi to him, he will think I’m weird since we haven’t talked in 5 months. Im going to get a cell phone soon and text him, maybe that will make things better…? Please Give me advice i need it sooo bad! This is really making me sad!

i’m a freshman in high school and about six months ago i met a sophomore boy who i seemed to immediately have feelings for. he’s so much like me in so many aspects - we both play music and write poetry and we even speak in the same manner and have the same goals. in the past six months he and i have gotten closer and found that we really do have so much in common. in fact, his best friend (and ex-girlfriend, haha) told me that she thought that of all people, i would have the most incredible, lasting relationship with him. i can’t even describe it. i never thought that I would have feelings like this for another person, but I would do anything for him. i really really really care about him, and i’ve told him that.

but recently, he doesn’t seem to feel the same way. he’s been spending quite a bit of his time with another girl. and it breaks me apart to see her going through what i could have gone through with him. they’re not together yet, but i have the strongest feeling that they will be soon. all of my friends tell me that i should just let him know how i feel, but he and i haven’t been as close lately and i don’t want to risk it too soon.

he has crazy emotional problems and i feel that i could help him, but apparently that’s this other girl’s job now.

i don’t know what to do. i don’t want to bother him, but i just like him so much and i have the strongest urge to just go up to him and tell him everything that’s been running through my head for the past six months. but we’ve been falling out of touch.

crushes are strange and beautiful and sometimes they drive you insane.
he’s the only thing that makes me feel alive sometimes.

i need help i have a crush on this guy in my class and i cant help it i always think about him. i always try seating behind him across the room so i can stare at him but instead he always ends up seating behind me across the room. i notice him staring at me sometimes and when i stare at him i noticed he looks down but im just not sure if he feels the same way about me.hes never talked to me i really want this guy what do i do?

HEY I KNOW HOW EVERYONE FEELS. I HAD A CRUSH ON THIS GUY(ONLY 5 YEARS DIFFERENT) ONE DAY I HAD TO TELL HIM MY FEELINGS BUT HE JUST SAID THAT HE HAS TO THINK ABOUT BUT I NEVER GOT REPLY UNTIL NOW (2 YEARS PASSED) BUT HE STILL SMILES AT ME AND MY HEART ACHES VERY BADLY I STIL HAVE THE SAME FEELING FOR HIM TODAY

I am 21 yrs old and i have a HUGE crush still from a girl since 6th grade. i went out with that girl but things went nowhere because of my lack of knowledge from anything related to dating. To this day i still think of her, though now i am in a committed relationship with another person. I just cant get this crush out of my head the more i try to push it out the more it comes back and stronger. I have never forgotten the wonderful feelings i had for my first crush. No other girl/woman have come close to her. Now i am at a crossroad, leave the relationship i am in and pursue my first crush.( i just feel that if i try again and this time with more knowledge then just staring/mumbling incoherently maybe something could happen with her)Or just keep trying to get her out of my mind(which has not worked for over 10 yrs >< )I am so confused and i am soon to enter the military so things are just getting more confusing at the moment. Would love some feedback from anyone.

I get so many crushes that it’s crazy! i’m 14, but since i look older guys notice me more, i guess. so far in the last year or two, about 5 guys have been checking me out It can be wierd sometimes, but hey, there is that one benefit to looking older one guy sort of looked at me with a really cool smile, and sort of raised his eyebrows like he was saying, “gosh you ARE cute”
=D
the guy i have a super-de-duper crush on i haven’t seen in a year, and he’ll be back on the first of April!!!! I am so excited

(sigh) my last crush. i really would never forget it. it was the strongest feeling i ever had for anyone. he’s not even around me anymore and i’m still seriously crushing on him. it’s almost two years old now. it feels so weird

My crush ive had a crush on for about a year and a half now.She just classes us as good freinds.I finaly after a year and a half built up the courage to ask her out but just as i was about to she told me that she had a crush on my best freind so i didnt ask her.I still have a huge crush on her and am thinking of asking her out again.Any advice ?

okay im really confused. so there was this guy that really really liked me. he would always tell me so, and would try to sound impressive and told me i was beautiful and all that. he tried really hard and i always told him i didnt like him in that way. but now he claims that hes moved on, and now has a girlfriend. but i often catch him looking at me, and he always wants to touch me. he doesnt hardly talk to me much, but when he does he still tells me im pretty and he talks about how great his girlfriend is and stuff. does he still like me??? just wondering

I’ve had a major crush for the past two years. However there is a major flaw about him, he is my best friends little brother. For awhile now, I’ve been doing everything to make him like me, I try and dress prettier, make myself seem to be at least somewhat interesting, but it seems when ever I’m around him all I can do is ignore him or be mute, so mute that he now points out that I never talk or even makes a big deal when I do. I do sometimes laugh at his jokes, or try and smile at him, however his sister and my best friend always catches on, and let me tell you she doesn’t like it. There have been many occasions where she brings it up either by saying, “You like my brother, don’t you? ... I would cry if he hurt you…” or (in a joking way) “Don’t touch my brother”, even in one occasion she even said “go for it” but after she said it she would get very quiet with me, even more since I would get all embarrassed and defensive that I don’t, and honestly I don’t think I could have been anymore obvious when she does bring it up. However I think she really does care for me, and if her brother and I did break up there would be a very awkward block in our relationship. But still, I have all these feelings him and knowing that we can never be makes me crazy and like him even more. Last night we hung out with out his sister around for the first time, it was still with a large group of his friends but I had way more confidence to be around him, and actually talked with him a bit and stood next to him, and now what is worse is that I think he is starting to like me back. However it could never be, and for now will stay an crush, maybe one day I’ll have the confidence to take it to the next level, but for now I think I will shoot for just friends…

Well, I have a crush on someone who I personally know, but am not BF or BFF’s with. I just recently found out that he’s crushing on me too, and my heart soared. That’s why I am on this site!!!

Crushes can last for many years. I had one in the 9th grade on a guy. He graduated and I hardly heard anything about him afterwards. Fortunately, I found him on facebook 25 years later. He also had a crush on me back then but was too shy to act on it. Only problem now is that he’s single and I’m married. Do you chase the dream or hold on to solid ground?

I am 11 and I have a HUGE crush on on one of my parents friends sons. We go to the same school and are in the same grade. I don’t know how to talk to him because I am so embarassed and I don’t know if he likes me back. Please help me!

i’m 14 years old and my crush does nothing but stare at me… but the thing that really hurts me the most is that whenever i text him he lies to me saying that he would never stare at me because i’m “sooo ugly!” but i catch him looking at me all the time.. in admiration 2!!! Plus everytime when i text him he yells at me constantly telling me 2 go away! My parents tell me that this is my first crush and that i will find another guy to love when i’m older. But I can’t seem to let him go even after all the mean text messages he has sent me… it’s weird! And i don’t think when I’m older that i will wanted to be treated that mean same way either….  it’s hard to let him go… maybe because we sometimes have feeling for each other… i don’t know…

Man….I’m falling for a guy I’ve never even talked to before. I see him in the hallway in between classes, we just pass by each other and make eye contact but that’s it. There’s only 3 days of school left and I don’t wanna spend my summer wondering “is he interested in me too or not?” but I also don’t want to go up to him and say anything because…well what would I say? I mean can you imagine: “hey, I’ve seen you around and I think you’re really cute…so like…yeah”. It’s too awkward. Plus, he might say “ew” or something or just ignore me and keep walking. I think I’m falling hard for him because today I had a bad day JUST because he didn’t make eye contact when he usually does. I feel so down. AHHHH!!!! Why do crushes exist? I wish I wouldn’t have emotions for like a week and when I get them back, I’d have forgotten all about him.

One of my biggest fears: not talking to him before this school year is over and next year (12th grade) finding out that he has moved and doesn’t go to my school anymore. That was SUCK. I’d have to spend the REST OF MY ENTIRE LIFE wondering about what could’ve been. I NEED TO DO SOMETHING QUICK. Anybody have any advice? I mean usually the guy is supposed to ask the girl out, and I’m the girl in this case. What to do?

Crushes are not only intense in feelings but can also be irritating. You can’t control who you feel them for, no matter what age you are!

I’m married & know it’s wrong. But I’ve had the hots for this one guy for years, & trust me sometimes feelings don’t always vanish but can get worse! It’s just a vicious circle of sweet torment!

The man I fancy is older but I think is really cute. I’m pretty sure he knows I like him. Crushes are ok, it’s normal to have them. But acting on crush feelings if you’re not available is the dangerous thing…

Nobody Nowhere… just ask him what he’s doing for the summer; it’s harmless; totally harmless.

I’m thinking “long shots” can be rewarding and/or disappointing.  If you hear of, or see someone years after the crush has left your thoughts because you’ve moved on… you’ve changed (matured) and so have they (matured differently).  I think the gender differences can make or break whether an earlier crush can or will work out… depends on where your collective headspaces are Hope this is thought provoking for a few of you… ‘cause i’m good2go

Oh i feel so silly..but wanted to share that i’m in a relationship but crush on someone everytime I go to costco.  Isn’t it terrible..?? Your BF could be feeling the same way about someone else.  Do I tell the BF or keep it to myself.

The crush has no idea I don’t even know his name.  He first spoke with me a few weeks ago..askin if I found everything I was lookin for.  Gosh..I was speechless.  And I was with the BF.  What to do what to do? arg.!

after reading all these comments i’m so thankful that many share the same sentiments as i do. it makes me want to share mine as well.

i’m a complete dunce when it comes to crushes. haha! i have this major crush on my classmate for over a year now. he’s the perfect guy - the retarded joker, gorgeous smile, a big heart, and a great voice that’ll melt your heart instantly… but sadly unattainable. he’s immensely popular and the whole school knows who he is. well i’m a low-profile dork so i’m kinda out of his league heh. ^^ that’s why i feel that he deserves someone so much better… yup.

and everytime i see him i freeze up. i can’t look at him in the eye; i end up frowning at his neck or his nose or the tree behind him during the occasional conversations. i’ve always felt that he was awkward and abit nervous around me as well (he can’t stand still but sort of shifts his leg here and there and looks at the ground), but my gut instincts might be wrong heh.

recently i could sense him looking at me during recess and even during lessons but being the coward that i am, i can’t even turn to look at him and confirm my observations. argh sometimes i wish i had the courage to ask, “hey man are you looking at me? is there an ant on my nose? or a leaf” oh dear.

there were several signs which i can’t quite comprehend - i find them misleading - calling me at midnight to ask about the timetable tmr when he could have easily asked his wide circle of friends, random days when he’d appear in front of my home to borrow my notes, while talking to him on msn he changes his nickname to “i love you” and then “i like you a lot”... i don’t know. oh dear why are you so misleading! sometimes i wish i could just ask him about all of this so we’d clear things up. we could then become really good friends.

i’d love to get to know him better but i’m holding myself back. it’s like i’m not cherishing the moments in our lives, as much as i should be. it breaks my heart how we won’t ever get to know each other well as people. i would be genuinely happy for him should he find somebody who loves him so much, definitely. but it’s just sad how i can’t be that someone. i can’t stop thinking about him help. the more i tell my heart STOPSTOPSTOP the more he climbs back in.

guess that’s how my crush will end. chickenaden me will give up and focus on my studies. OH DEAR PART OF ME BADLY WANTS TO HANG ON!!!! and see how things go. i don’t want to remain obsessed; i just want to be me and treasure life as much as i can.

sigh. all you darlings out there, i feel for you too.