i came here with a problem, and i just need opinions and advices. I have a crush on a guy who later i found out he has a crush on me. I didnt talk to him alot because i always got scared and everytime i talk to him i stare at his eyes lol but the problem is i have a bf which i dont like at all, i only went out with him because before i found out my crush liked me he ask me out and since i thought oh well i’ll give him a chance, but now i’m scared to break up with him because i fear that he might try suicide, and he been liking me for almost 2 years but i just cant feel anything for him only friendship. I dont know what to do, i cry because i cant be with my crush but at the same time i’m trying to make my bf happy.

Hey..I am looking for my old friends and fantastic supporters and all round great people, AlwaysCrushed and Drunkdude..are you guys around?  How are you doing with your crushes( AC, are you in one yet?)..let me know..think about you guys sometimes..you both helped me a lot when i was a little nuts !  PS still love the Brinks dude and nice stuff is starting to happen adventuregirl

OMG adventuregirl!!!!
It’s been soooo long!
What’s going on?

I’m still living up to my name, and I’m thinking the laws of attraction have something to do with it, so I should change it to desiree or something LOL

Just got “crushed” again in June - went over the top this time with a military man who is more secretive than the people who post here. LOL ~
AND, got crushed again in July - helluva batting average, n’est pas? but not as devastating as June-man.
Oh how I wish we could really talk. Do you still have my email? because if you create a non-descript addy, it would be “safe” for you. I’m still not afraid.

Drunk-dude and I carried on communicating for a while, then his disappeared into cyberspace.  I was disappointed, but I also believe he was devasted enough to not be reminded of how we met here.  Hopefully he has come out the otherside stronger because that is my true wish for him.

So things are starting to “happen” you say? Are they more crushes? heh-heh or a sign of strength from knowledge? Hope to hear from you… lt320 (in case you forgot-as in, LT

When I was 12 I met this 13 year old guy at my PE class. I sort of ignored him (tried to, anyway) and went on with my life. But then I got a huge crush on him. I hoped and prayed, and wished on stars that he liked me. He looked at me sometimes, and tried to talk to me, but we never did get much of a conversation. Then, one day, heagave me some daisies that he’d picked for me!!! Boy, I probably blushed from my head to my toes, but then I knew: he liked me!!!
Then, tragedy struck. His grandma was ill and so the guy and his family had to move temporarily to Texas, and I am not in texas. About a twelve hour drive from Texas. Then we had a revealing conversation, sort of. He said that it wasn’t crazy that we could get married. That I was the best thing that had happened to him (by now I was 13). We knew that we liked each other. And it was good. I gave him my email and address, so that he could contact me. But that was in May. It’s September now, and I haven’t heard from him. Than Hurricane Ike hit Texas, and now I’m worried sick about him: is he okay? is he dead?(18 people died, last time I heard) is he hurt at all? will he come back from his temporary move? I don’t know. I am sad.

I had a massive crush on this girl - I could see my entire life with her unfold in front of my eyes. And she truly made me want to be a better person. But she caused me the worst kind of pain you can imagine - when she started discussing her love life with me. It was so hard for me to picture her with someone other than me. And after weeks of butterflies in my tummy, I mustered courage and blurted out my feelings for her. She gave me an apologetic “We can be good friends.” But since that day, we don’t even talk to each other the way we used to. I feel like a jerk, each day till now (It’s been a month). Is this the worst kind of pain EVER? Any tips on how to deal with this intolerable situation?

Always crushed..have not forgotten about you, will write soon..still majorly in crush with Brinks dude...suff has happened, nothing major but very very nice, maybe moving slowly but surely in the right direction..want your opinion and hard won wisdom..will write again soon, promise..can’t make out your e mail address...AG

Ganapathy… wow!  I empathize completely, and I applaud your bravery.  What seems like the “worst pain EVER”... is truely the worst pain ever at the moment you are experiencing it without a doubt.  I have been in your shoes soooo many times, I am “AlwaysCrushed”.  Out emotions are crazy & evil set backs, but we do heal, learn, and grow from them.  And I must admit, I’ve been in “her shoes” as well… and that can be just as tough BUT ...
There is an upside. (Oh really?) hehehe yes!
You are expressing it here. Getting those emotions out on the table is better than harboring them inside to fester and manifest themselves into something WORSE!  As a man, you are required not to get emotional by mere virtue of your gender (that’s crap by the way)... so be good friends.  Don’t look back at yourself as a failure in any way because YOU ARE NOT one.  Especially not here because we all make choices… so choose a forward path of happiness by congratulating yourself for telling someone how you feel.  You may be cautious next time, but why wait to tell someone and miss an opportunity?  If you don’t tell someone how you feel, they may never know and then you will have other regrets to deal with.  Having a crush, no matter what your age, is our reality. Remember, all is good, be happy, and move forward with a smile.

I know that I’m just rambling on about this guy, but does anyone have any advice on telling a guy that you like him? If and when this guy I like comes back, I want to tell him how I feel. He’s told me, but I don’t want him to feel as if I don’t care about him - I do!!! Help me!!!!

i am so crushed to death.i have this huge crush on one my classmates and i am 99% sure he doesnt even see me.never talked to him and probably never will.i am so sick and even try to find a reason to avoid class.if he ever looks my way i just freeze.when does crushes stop coming????

"Tinker Bell” and “crushed to death” - you know crushes are a mystery to everyone… they make us feel soooo many different feelings—but have no fear for fear is your worst enemy.  Plan something interesting to say or do. Be noticed. Step outside your comfort zone for a brief moment.  Something I like to share is a quote I heard a long long time ago:  “Interesting people are interested, and interested people are interesting”—think about it when you think about what you are going to do—for I am AlwaysCrushed

Ive been crushing on this guy since summer and we’ve known each other since last year but I guess it started in this party when we were both tipsy while talking that night. I’ve been crushing on him ever since. His friend told me that he liked me but he gave up coz he thought I liked someone else. Yeah it sucks, he’s had a crush on this other girl for a long time, but I think he still likes her. I feel confused now, I don’t know why I’m expressing my feelings here, and I’m just scared ti get rejected. We havnt talked, and Im so shy, when I’m really not at all with my other guy friends. He’s just so different from my other crushes. It’s weird.

It seems like everywhere I look, somebody seems like they’re in a perfect relationship and are so happy. I desperately want to have a crush on somebody and go out with someone so I can hold their hand and have someone to cry on you know? I’ve put myself through a lot the past couple of months trying to find that perfect guy but it just isn’t working! I don’t know what to do! I got to school with 2,000 people and I can’t seem to find anybody that remotely interests me! It’s so frustrating and heartbreaking!

Thank you AlwaysCrushed!

I miss him soooooo much. I haven’t even heard from him. :(

Wow, you guys will never know what kind of therapy this has been for my and I really appreciate it.

For me, it is a similar equation- a guy that I have known for almost two years now suddenly seems different: as in actively flirting, looking sad when I have to leave the group, actively making plans with me, etc.  I’ve kept it to myself for two weeks because I know how much things can escalate when you get others involved…

But today I hinted to the possibly budding relationship to my friend.  She told me that I should watch how he behaves with other people- he acts the same way with everyone.

At first, I was extremely angry and hurt that she would say that to me, but we kept talking, and she said she likes him too.  In fact, there are three other “known” girls that like him as well.  This is just as frustrating as it is heartbreaking- I trust my abilities to tell him how I feel and see if we could have a relationship… But how many daggers in the back would I get?

So now I’ve resolved just to let things flow and not do anything terribly active… As now I know there are a lot of people that I could hurt.  Thanks for reading/listening.