fuck cant get him out of my mind.
anyone has ideas about 4getting crushes?
cause i cant.
i always feel like my crushes dont like me.
its sad.

I love reading the comments made on this site because it helps me realize I am not being silly or immature for having a crush. I am 27 and have had a crush on a co-worker for three months. We flirt at work constantly and have hung out outside of work. Well I was tired of not knowing what was going on and felt that there was something more then friendship between us. So a few days ago I drove this guy home and basically laid it all on the table about how I felt. He reacted in a mature way but said at this time he did not want a girlfriend because he had to much to handle right now. (true, lots of issues going on) He apologized for sending me mixed signals and said he is just a big flirt. I accepted all of this but in the end still think there was something there. I have to move on, I know this but it is rough. I had some balls to tell someone face to face that I liked them knowing I would see them everyday at work. However I feel SO MUCH BETTER about the entire thing. I now know where I stand with him and I would rather know he is not interested then to go on pondering if he was or wasn’t. Good luck to everyone who has a crush. The best sure way to know is to ask. If I can do it, anyone can.

Cowardly Lion, come on dude, don’t give up already! You know how it is, when they say no, it means yes. Come on man, I’m rooting for you :D

Hey Thanks Tool,

I’m starting to feel guility because I’m starting to pay too much attention to someone else because Katie keeps giving me the run around. I’ve tired everything was 99% honest with her(the only thing I lied about was not wanting to hook up with her) She does these things in her headline box and this time it says “I love you”. I don’t know if she was talking to me but I think she does. I saw her yesterday and she couldn’t even look me in my eyes..she was smiling so hard. She use to run track so you know...She is hot! She’s not too pretty and nowhere near ugly, her body plus her face and the hair.. OH MY WORD! I love her too, but now I’m scared because I have no control of my emotions when it comes to her. It’s the end of the month like I said and if it’s up to me this is the last few days of me not being with her. It would have been yesterday, but she was smiling so hard and wouldn’t look at me, it knock my confindence down. We’ll see if I go with my gut I know she’s into me but me being the coward that I am is what second guessing everything I know is mostly true, but after that “I love you” thing was it for me I going for it either she’s with me or against me

Im so confused i like this guy but he was a jerk so i stopped liking him, i made sure that i erased and taped and white out every thing i wrote on my books, and my mind doesnt like him anymore but my heart does, any time i see him my stomach still ties. 

Im not agirl who flirts (or im not aware of it) but i think i am or being percived as flirting and i kinda like this guy, but im embarressed to and i really dont know if im just being friendly or hes seeing it as flirting, but i hope not. Help me!!

Hi Confused..

Are u in HS or College and why are you embarrassed for liking him? I don’t know that’s how things are sometimes. Good luck what do you need help with..Why don’t you just make it clear that you’re not into him if your embarrassed by him you should.

I know that they like me but they don’t really know I like ‘em.

I am confused! I wrote on here about two weeks ago regarding a co-worker of mine who I have a crush on. (see previous above) It has been two weeks since I told him how I felt and I see him at work daily and we still talk and flirt and whatnot. I knew I had to move on because he wasn’t interested or so he said. Well I always thought he had lied about his feelings. Well yesterday at work as he was leaving he asked me out to dinner. So now I am back at square one and confused. Help me out here guys. If a girl told you she liked you and you had no feelings for her would you still flirt like crazy with her at work and want to spend time with her outside of work? I thought a guy would be all cold to a girl he didn’t recipricate the feelings for. So does he feel something? Any comments would be really appreciated. Thanks!

for witzy.Sometimes after having your feelings let out the person you like will still keep you in a special place in his heart,as a friend so he will still spend some time with you.O.K.?

witzy,
I cannot speak for that dude of yours, but I know that I would not do the things he apparently does with you if I was not interrested in a girl, (unless she’s a childhood friend or something like that). I’ll tell you something...guys in general class girls in 3 categories:
1. I’d date that (by “date”, I mean a long term relationship),
2. I’d hit that,
3. None of the above.
So, unless you’re insanely hot, I would think it’s No.1 ...I mean, I can’t see any other reason why he would want to spend time with you unless he’s interrested. Basically what I’m trying to say is...Something is going on, now it’s up to you to find out what that something is Good luck!

i hav a crush on the cousin of someone who hav a crush on me..so now,im not free to tell who my crush is coz my admirer will surely get mad with his cousin..i dont know wat to do!!!

there is thisd bot who is nice 2 me and meen at the same time so how can i tell if he loves me or not?????

Well all, Katie is nothing more than anyone else but worse. She’s the devil and a slut. I mean she wouldn’t respond to anymore of my messages so I started thinking she wasn’t reading them so I’ll tell her where to meet me and she’d come but with two of her classmates. I thought their was something special about her and I tried to follow my instincts but the 1st impression I had of her was a slut, but me being the spiritual person I am I thought i was judging too fast. I tried not to like her but she consumed my soul and I figuered there’s no way God would let me feel this way for someone who’s all wrong again, but yes my instincts are broken whatever they say I’m going to do the opposite (when it comes to liking someone).
She’s the wrong one story of my life but I’m not that hurt right now because I let all those feelings out last week. I feel like such a loser she has moved on with her live and could give a shitless about me and mine. Oh well life goes on and yes there are other girls who are intrested in me but they’re not her.

When I am crushing on a guy I never stop talking about him and bury him with gifts and just think that this guy is a gift from the heavens and a complete angel.

Witzy,
I agree with tool, but generalization is always an underlying idea that applies to the general public, and my point being is that I have actually done what your colleague does.
There’s a friend of mine who has a boyfriend already, and whenever we meet up, I have a tendency to flirt with her. It’s fun, and it makes me giddy. I once thought I liked her becuase we always flirted, but when I found out that she had a boyfriend, the whole situation became a teasing and amusing conversations that I actually enjoy.

I agree that most of the times, however, when a guy spends a lot of time on a girl, he usually have feelings for her. Just go with your instincts. Does he like you? Also, there may be times when a guy denies his feelings because he’s afraid to admit his love, or rather, he needs time to think about his feelings for you, and as a defensive instinct when he’s pressured, he’ll say he has no feelings for you. Though, you just have to judge on every little thing he does and use your gut feeling. I don’t know what else to day...becuase we’re all confused and we’re all wondering how the other feels for us. Who knows? Sometimes we don’t even know how we feel for a person, and in that case, how should other people know?
Only time will tell.

hey the boy tht ilove id starten 2 like me sota

I have a long lasting crush on my own doctor: it is miserable because I can feel my heart jumping like out of my chest when im in his office, yet i keep it to myself because he is very ethical and im afraid he would not treat me if he knew.........im so miserable holding all my feelings back.....i have given him small gifts, mostly chocolate, and he is very sweet about it, i just love the look on his face when he opens it......i just live for his smile......i need to stop this, sometimes i can’t bring myself to call about medical problems, and if the office calls with results i purposely don’t answer, fearing it is him, i freeze and can’t talk i like him so much!!!!!!!!!

hi,im jelly loved your passage.

i like this guy named max. hes funny ,cute and not so smart but i like him a lot.

I have a crush… it has been horrible because whenever I am around him I can’t even get the guts to talk… its like my mouth freezes, I get nervous and become so shy. He is just the nicest guy but sometimes I feel that I am not good enough for him. That he will find a prettier girl than me. I barely know him but I see him almost every day as he is my neighbor. So I am just trying to get him out of my head and stop thinking about him. Yesterday I bumped into him as we were both walking our dogs and he started talking to me but I barely answered back because I was so nervous. He is very outgoing so he kept trying to keep the conversation going. After he left I felt so dumb! I sure he must think I am a nut.

I’ve had a crush on the same person for a year now. He’s one of the few things in life that makes me smile, but all he thinks of me as is a friend. Doesn’t that blow, we did “date” for 2 days, then he asked his crush out, I was crushed. I never stopped liking him, and he and that girl are now broken up but he’s afraid to date me because of what she did to him. I think that you guys understand exactly how that feels.

I think crushes are hard because as women we are all brought up to think that love at first sight is possible - Prince Charming is right around the corner, that sort of thing. This isn’t usually true, sometimes but not always. So we put ourselves out there, thinking love is in his or her eyes as well as ours. Little do we realize that the other person is just being polite, flirting with no thought of love, or just acting normally for them. It hurts so badly! I have been in love with a man for almost 2 yrs, someone I work with closely. Like others here, I made a terrible mistake by saying something really stupid in email. It turned him off and it took 2 months before he would be anything but polite to me. I wish I could go back and erase that part of my life. What kills me even more is that I am not technically available and neither is he. So I shouldn’t even be thinking all this but I can’t help it. It sometimes makes you question every relationship choice in your life - is this the one I should be with or this other guy? Makes things so confusing!

omg i cant believe other people feel the same way crushes can be hard and scary at the same time but if the guy likes u back it can be soooo worth it!! if you know what i mean

I enjoyed reading everyone’s story, it’s something I like doing, sometimes when I take the metro I see all these people and wonder what’s their stories...Most are sad, mine is no different…
There’s this girl I love, hard to say for how long now...I think I loved her from the first time I looked at her. I love her but cannot be with her, because she is with someone esle. And after this someone, she’ll be with someone else, and someone else and someone else. The number of guys that are after her is insane, they all try to impress her and be nice to her, and do things for her and offer her stuff, etc....I don’t. Because I hate doing that, and have nothing to impress her with anyway…
I love a girl who’s with someone else and it hurts, it hurts real bad. I don’t wish that to anyone.

OMG ONE TIME I WENT TO MY FRIENDS B DAY PARTTY AND I WAS SO HAPPY THAT MY CRUSH CAME THERE AND WE PLAYED SPIN THE BOTTLE AND THE BOTTLE LANDED ON MY CRUSH!!!I WAS SO EMBARRASED AND EXCITED AND WHEN WE KISSED,NEITHER OF US COULD MOVE.OUR BRACES WAS STUCK TOGETHER!!!MY FRIENDS MOM HAD TO COME WITH YANKERS AND BOTH OF US WERE GROUNDED!But it was a first kiss we never foget.-blush-:]

Thanks to those who have emailed me and helped me with my crush that I had at work a while back. Here is the problem now. I am over him, but find myself being blatanly rude to him at work. It seems that I can not stand him now and don’t know what I ever did see in him. I never say hi or anything anymore when I pass by him. It is like he is a stranger that I am just walking by. However yesterday we worked an eight hour shift and he came over to my department like four times trying to talk to me. I mainly gave him one work answers and wanted him to leave me alone. I hate being mean but don’t know what I feel this for him. Has anyone else ever felt like this with a crush? Thanks.