After a crush I don’t sleep well, don’t eat… But at least I know I’m alive!

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I M NERVOUS MY CRUSH WANT LIKE ME HUUUUHHHHH IVE LIKED HIM 4 3YRS

ive gave love notes poems and every thing and still no ruplys well 1 negitive 1 but still what do i do?

You know, I have a BIG crush on a guy—so big, I’ve never felt the same about anyone so far in my life—I feel that he’s “the one”... but we haven’t spoken in months.  We were classmates, we talked, we shared a lot of moments and then life tore me away.  And I can’t stop thinking about how I blew a chance with a GREAT guy.  I still like him months later… but it’s too late.

I have a big crush on the UPS man who delivers packages at my work.  I am 26 years old, and I can’t understand why I am still having crushes.....once, I had my back turned to the door, and I was thinking about him, and the next moment when I turned around, he was right there (sigh) ...Crushes are so sad when they are not reciprocated.  But the excitement for me is that it’s a secret!  If they were reciprocated, then the crush becomes too real, then the fantasies stop.  I hope that my crush with the UPS man doesn’t become real, because I dono’t want my fantasies to stop :0)

Yeah, had a crush to, but Girl X is not responding. Don’t think I have hope. Just gotta continue with life.....

Man! i have a huge crush on this guy, but the problem is he is only here for the summer, then he’s going back to St.martin!!! He told my friend he liked me but I don’t wanna get involved then for him to just leave me!!! Gosh, this is tuff.

I had a crush on this guy all threw the school year but one day he came to talk to me and i just froze and i didnt say anything so he just walked away i felt so embarassed

When you have a crush on someone, true that the feeling is great when you think about them and fantasize about them...But when the crush is so huge, and that girl or guy hurts you..the pain is indescribable. This happened to me. This girl that i had a crush on for two years is now very close with me. She shares some of her secrets with me and i share most of mine. Just when i thought she was starting to like me, i found out she is secretly hiding feelings or my best friend from me. I was hurt when i found out, but i wanted to see whether she would finally stop the lies and tell me the truth. To this day, she is still lying to me. Us three had a huge fued when one day i just blurted it all out because i couldn’t stand it anymore.Talking again but i feel like there’s this huge crack in our friendship and it’s not the same. I still have feelings for her and sometimes have nightmares about them both and wake up sweating. Usually after this nightmares, i’ll wake up and cry. I’m not someone that cries often so this is really awkward for me.

Why is it that it takes a mere second to get a crush on someone, but it takes months to get over them? The heart is a complicated thing. 

Reply to ‘andrew’: I know exactly what you mean, it’s awful to know someone is leading you on, but still have feelings for them. I went through a ‘midsummer night’s dream’ situation- I was ‘Helena’. My first crush really led me on- he only danced with me at the prom! But the next day I found out, whilst he’d been dancing with me, he’d really been eyeing my best friend. I cried for hours over him; he was still flirting with me, but was after my best friend (who had a boyfriend)- it just hurt to know he didn’t want me. Now we’re friends, but I know what a ladies man he is- he’s now going out with my friend, but he doesn’t have the same feelings for her anymore. It took me months for the pain to stop, and though I know what a jerk he is, he’ll always have a special place in my heart.

It’s so strange to hear how much our stories and feelings about crushes can be so similar, in intensity and feelings, even if the circumstances aren’t exactly the same.  My previous comments about liking to live in the fantasy, was the positive side to my crushes.  The sadder side to my crushes fit more along the lines of “Andrew” and “Willowdragon”.  I completely agree with how crushes can take just a moment to happen, but take months to get over (if we ever totally do!).  I don’t feel so silly, now that I know that other people have crushes too, and that it hits them just as hard.  The hardest thing about my crushes is that just when I’m about to finally be brave and say something, I never see them again.  This has happened only two times (me becoming brave), then my two crushes never came back.  It is heart shattering---and so aggravating because they never even knew how I felt (or that they didn’t go through what I did, emotionally, about ME)!!

When I was in the 3 rd. grade. I had a crush on the guy next door. The problem was that I was only 9. He was 23. After growing up several years later. He went threw 3 wives before me. We have been married for 11 years. We are so happy. We have so much fun. It could happen. It happen to me. I finally married my first love. He is just a great as he was when I was in the 3 rd. grade. Even though he is 15 years older than I am. I have always loved him. I know we will last.

Me again.Still 11.
But anyway I believe that crushes start
anywhere,anytime,anyplace.And that really sucks.Like,for example:I have two crushes.
I have one on the guy who works at the place i live.And the other on a guy who
volunteers at the local clinic. Yes,
crushes are everywhere.It’s that silly grin I get whenever I see one of them.

im 28 and have a crush on my realeste agent.hes also a friend.i made a big mistake and i told him my feelings today in my car i think theres just somethings u need to keep to yourself.(it didnt turn out how i thought it would

oh so true!!
i should know,im practically living it.. i konw that he doesn’t like me,and it hurts

Whats worse for me is that everbody had to tell him that I liked him.

You can still be pretty happily married and get crushes, particularly on other parents in the school playground and parties when picking up the kids. The thing about crushes is that you idolise a person which means that if you did ever have a relationship with them it would only end in disappointment as how could they live up to your dreams!? I’m a sucker for a kind face and a nice smile as it makes a woman look very attractive

To follow up with Gable’s comments, I totally get crushes on other people.  I’ve been in a relationship for over 10 1/2 years, and I still get really serious crushes!  My UPS crush is still so strong.  Same thoughts too: I’m also a sucker for a kind face and a great smile and laugh.  He’s so adorable! 

Ya, I have a HUGE crush on my neighbour, but he dosen’t seemto notice that I exist. And the worst part is, most of my friends are so immature that when I talk about guys, they just say “eww”, so I can’t vent my feelings. Oh my god, I’M SO DEPRESSED! 

So, what happens when crushes wane?  When crushes are not reciprocated?  They break your heart!!!  That’s What!!  I think that my recent crush knows how I feel, and now he’s *distantly polite* with me!  yuck.  sigh.  Very sad.  Very EMBARRASSING!! Triple sigh.  I don’t even want to go to work anymore, because I’m so embarrassed!

i always get a crush on someone i usually see but do not personally know, so my crushes are based on looks. i often start crushes at the gym or at school. i love the fantasies of having crushes but i want so badly my crush to like me back...i am torn. i am 18 and like it would be so great to have someone like me, even if i am kind of scared about being in a relationship because i dont know what awaits me. i am a deep and complex person and will love someone for their hearts and not only their looks but my crushes are always based on looks because i never actaully get to kNOW my crush, just see him. i was never in a relationship. what do i do?

I think crushes bring out all of our vulnerabilities and insecurities. We want so badly for that person to like us back, yet we are so scared to let them know we have feelings for them, because we are afraid they are going to reject all the things we hate about ourselves. I’ve had a crush on a guy for 2 years, and each day goes by without anything happening. It feels torturous to my heart, but I feel so scared. I freeze up like a deer in headlights whenever he’s around. For some idiotic reason, I try not to show that I have feelings for him, so I come across stand-offish, and probably like a bitch, because that is how scared I am of being rejected by him. It’s absolutely horrible. I’ve had other men who have been interested in me, but I can’t get my mind off this one guy. It’s awful. It hurts. Even though I don’t even know him that well, I feel this strong strong attraction. I really want to let him know how I feel about him, but I am too scared.

although these feelings are so hard to deal with, they are also so tender and a reminder that we all have the capability to love someone deeply. I do believe in love. but maybe we need to be more confident and take a chance? why do crushes make us so scared? what happens to our confidence when we have a crush??????? where does it go? It’s easy to feel confident when someone likes YOU.. But when you like someone else, and you’re not sure how they feel about you, and you’re too scared to find out the truth, it makes you wonder. I guess that’s one of the many mysteries of life. I’m 33 and I don’t even know what to tell the 18 year old. I think crushes are ageless.

i know exactly what you mean. i also act that way...i act as though he is just another person walking by as if i don’t even notice him..and yet he;s the one in my mind every second. maybe it’s a bad idea to be stand -offish?

i so very agree with ‘andrew’, ‘WillowDragon’ and ‘heartsick’ i’ve had a crush on 2 guys, both seemed to be very friendly, they were so nice to me, but finally i had to tell one of them my feelings, he just stared at me and when he opened his mouth he said i was a very special person… but he’s gay! my heart just shattered like glass,

i never had the guts to tell the other guy what i felt, just in case.

they’re still friends with me but i just can’t get over the feeling in my heart when they smile at me